Path of Achievement

Confused about career?

 

When i completed my schooling i wanted to take Arts. But after my result all said that best student should go to Science and I took Science.

Normal people in India today also thinks that there only three fields of study, Art, Commerce and Science; in which poor students goes to Arts and Best one goes to science.

What a funny!

Let me tell you my experience. I am in Education Industry (yes now a days it is industry) from 4 to 5 years. I am also familiar with Marketing and IT.

One day Mr. A came to me for his kids admission. Mr. A his self is only 7th standard pass, but big business man. He said that his son is very bad in study and didn't score well in schooling exams. He wanted to take admission in my college and in Information Technology stream but due to his son's poor score, was not able to secure seat in official admission process. He offered good amount of donation to college management and got one seat for his son.

During classes, I interacted with Mr. A's kid (we can call him Mr C). Mr. C was very much arrogant in his way. In start, I handled him softly but his behavior was getting worst day by day. Complaints from other staff and students about Mr. C increased. During mid term exams, he got failed and as per rules we called parents of all students who failed in mid term exams.

Mr. A came and instead of meeting class teacher, directly went to meet principal sir. After sometime , i got call from cabin as I was the head of department.

There he blamed that our teaching quality is too much poor and to hide that we tortured his child. I got shocked and explained my side. But Mr. A was not ready to listen and blaming me and my whole staff as corrupted.

After whole discussion, I understood his point. He demanded clear result of his kid as settlement of torture he got from our college.

My principal asked me to handle the scenario. I asked him to come after two days and made them to leave.

After two  days when he again came, I gave him small idea that for whole week I by my self take extra lecture of kid and at the end of the week, will conduct one more test and then will give him clear result. First he doubted and argued but then somehow he accepted. 

So from Monday I started the session. Teaching after classes is like punishment for any student. So Mr. C was not much happy. But he didn't has option, and he came. Even I was not happy for working more (by leaving other work) but had to solve things properly so did that.

I started my lecture of Maths. It is my habit to check level of logical assumption of any kid before teaching him or her any subject so that i can determine level teaching should be given to student. I first tried to talk little with him and then gave him few puzzles. According to his performance, I didn't expect a single correct answer but in my surprised he gave me all correct answer in no time.

I felt little good and I think he also felt good due to his success (of course everyone like achievements). We started the study, after certain time I gave him few problems to solve and in again he solved all properly.

That day session was very fast and better then i expected. I enjoyed and Mr. C also. Second day I changed my plan, and brought  few more puzzles and instead of teaching him I tried to play with him. He also liked to solve the puzzles and I started interacted with him. In that session I build one level of friendship with him. 

Next day something different happen, he brought few challenges for me and asked me to solve them. I tried. I solved all. After that i started with study but after certain moment he said that he would like to learn maths instead of electronics. I talked that well with him. Instead of talking , i would say, I argued well with him. That day I realized that student was actually a bright kid but tortured. Not tortured by me or my college but by his family. His family wanted him be take field of study in which he was not interested.

That day I discussed his hobby and time pass things he does. He explained me what he liked and how his father think that he just do things which are of no use. He told me that he fills computer is nothing more then a play station. After this five days interaction, I decided to change my plan.

I talked to my principal and called Mr. A. I tried to explained him how good his kid is and how nicely he does things. I tried convey him that his kid is not likely to take this field and wanted to something different. At the end he confessed that he will rethink but also asked me one favor.

Mr. A said that he knows that his kid is not interested in this field but he has capacity of learning. He asked me to guide his kid for career in this filed which can suits his kids interest and convey him to have degree. I accepted his talk.

On Monday, after all lectures got over, I went out on round. I found Mr. C seating in class and reading something. I asked him about his purpose then he said that his waiting for me to have sessions. I said that sessions are over and he can leave. But he refused and asked me to at least for puzzle solving round and show me paper which he was reading before my arrival. I refused and asked him to go home. He didn't move. I went to cabin.

When i was leaving college, my peon informed me that Mr. C is still seating in room and not leaving. I went and requested him to leave. He again asked for help in solving puzzle and i promised him for next day. He got happy and went.\

Next day he came, I was ready for his puzzles. But I also had made my mind to solve him also. During puzzle solving I started talking with him about his dreams and career. In start he didn't showed any interest but slowly started giving proper answers. And I got chance. I showed him wast idea about different fields and career growth. I also give him certain examples. He listened me nicely. He also gave his input. At the end of the session i just told him that today was last session and no more puzzles I will solve with him but I also explained him that there more beautiful challenges in outside world which we need to solve and to solve those we need guidance, knowledge and skills. 

He understood my whole conversation and he left happily. 

I wont say that he got changed totally and became a very good student, but yes his attitude towards his study definitely got changed. After that he didn't fail in any exams. He didn't became ranker but he was happy and started enjoying what he was doing.

Exams are just part of academics. Clearing those exams and achieving top ranks are good things, but it doesn't mean everything.

Today also I will say all parents that let your kid build his own world. Of course give your inputs to him, but don't force him to be like you say. Motivating to choose better and forcing to do best are totally different things.

Please talk and solve your problem. Communication makes everything possible.